Friends help us make our way in the world. They keep us from getting too many of the bumps and bruises that the world sometimes dishes out, and they help us get over the bumps and bruises that do come our way. Friends help us figure out who we are and how we fit in with the world. Friends help us to see and experience many of the joys the world has to offer, one of the most important of which is friendship itself.
Who are these friends? They are the people in our lives that accept us for who we are and want to be with us and do things with us. Friends deepen experiences. We laugh louder at a joke when we hear it with a friend. Sunsets seen with a friend are more beautiful than those seen alone or with strangers. Friends count on each other, and we trust each other with things important. Knowing that we have someone who has our back gives us courage.
While friends compliment each other from time to time, more importantly they complement each other. We find some of our skills, talents, and knowledge in our friends, but more importantly we find in our friends some of those things we do not much have ourselves. Friends recognize that each has something to offer and when offered no payment is required. Friends don’t expect each other to be the same. We don’t allow individuality, we treasure it. Friends accept us for who we are. Knowing that we are somewhat or a lot different from each other and finding ways to fit together helps us to puzzle out many of life’s mysteries. With friends we are more than we are alone.
Friends have similar interests, which brings them together and makes the interests more interesting. We enjoy being with our friends, and we have fun with them. They expand our lives. When we think of our friends we smile.
Friends treat each other with respect. We recognize what is important to one another and take care to protect that. Friends help us to see what we do to get in our own way and help us see a better way. Sometimes friends make mistakes with other people and with each other. An important part of respect is shown when friends set aside judgment and forgive.
We feel caring from our friends and care for them. We feel safe with our friends, and we are more at peace with ourselves.
Mark S. Homan